discouraging

With all the hullabaloo about Hobby Lobby and previous to that, Chik-Fil-A...there was a refreshing sense of standing through persecution that I admired. However, then people make it stupid. I mean even the supporters trying posting on facebook and trying to create a HL day to support them. It's honorable, but where's the meekness in that? Do we leave room for God when we try to rally the troops on our own? This is the discouraging part...it seems like we are so repulsive. I don't know what to think about it. I am all for the stand, but, when I look at how Mary (Jesus' mother) stood for what Jesus stood for, there wasn't parading going on...or boasting, or even patting on the back. I am at a loss on how we, as Christians should behave. I think of verses like
     Hebrews 12:14 - "Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord."
     Romans 12:18 - "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all."

I can't understand how we would put on a demonstration - I mean, I understand how I wish to support them, but is bandwagonning the best way?

I am confused....