Hard times - examples

There have been a string of hard times in the household and it's been weighing heavily on me. I don't have a lot of places to turn with such things since we've moved to Colorado. My closest friends that I would normally share the dismal news with are back in Arkansas.

Here are 2 examples-

I have been amazed at the differences between Ar and Co. I thought we would come to new experiences, wisdom beyond measure, and be introduced to awe inspiring ideas through churches and ministry. It has been none of that. In fact, quite the opposite. One of the great things of the churches from the south are that the older generation pour out so much wisdom. Here, it appears they are viewed as a hurdle or something to accommodate. We actually had a conversation when choosing songs to play for worship where they counted the hymns that we had played to ensure they were happy. I don't know if the older generation would be pleased to know this. Or, maybe that's what they want..... I don't know. It seems like, that of all people, they would understand worship is not about them (or us)...

My wife and I had a great discussion on how to handle issues with the big kids and we discussed what would be the best for the kids and the stage of life they are in....how we don't want to control every aspect of their lives and we have to let them make mistakes.. ....but, that's a big change for me. I just want them to always get it right...never get hurt...be the hero...be the example.

These 2 examples are just more of the same stresses or problems that I have complained abou t in the past...just more things that are outside of my control that I think I should control. Things that I have to let go of. I read Psalms 146 this morning and it spoke to me about this difficult stage that I am going through. "Happy is the man whose help is the Lord." Is the paraphrasing... I know that I don't have control and the King of heaven is in control... He gave me a good word this morning..

So, in trying to figure out how the Psalm applies to my life...

The worship team that I am part of - I was trying to help and make it better...but that's not happening. Again, I am trying to control something outside my control or influence that doesn't want or necessarily even need my help. They are happy with where they are and think that what and how they do things is fine. (Exactly the same mindset I struggle with and am blogging about! Lol) They have the experience of understanding the reactions and dislikes of the congregation and pastor. So, why do I feel the need to interfere? Why should I feel angst over dumb issues like that and try to make changes to something that doesn't matter to anyone anyway. I probably need to move on and let this one not add to the stresses in my life. That's a great help to know that it really doesn't matter in the grand and eternal scheme of things. I need to pray about this more but, at least I know that I don't have to worry about it at all if I choose not to...

My "kids are growing" issues - they are needing the failures and successes from their own hand to help them grow but I struggle with letting them fail. This one is much more complicated..obviously quitting is not an option like it could be with the music ministry. This IS what my life is right now. I need to pray for the patience and knowing when to do what... That's where I can be happy in the help the Lord provides. They're His anyway, He loves them more so I will just pray that He guide me and give me strength..



Sounds easy...

I doubt this reads as I intend it to...

Godly and sagely advice desired!